Mr. Ramnathan (namechanged) rang me up this morning in time to remind me get prepared to leave along with him. Mr. Ramanathan is a resident from Bangalore city which is workplace as well. He iwas in Chennai today visit his son who stays with and under the custody of Mr. Ramanathan's Ex-wife. Mr. Ramananthan can meet his child who is his only son, only twice in a month on any two sundays between 10 am to 6 pm as per the visitiation rights granted to him by the COurt. When Mr. Ramanthan knew very well he shall lose even the minimal period he would spend exclusively with his son when I went with him, he still chose to take me with for a strong reason.
Initially Mr. Ramanatha was given 50% visitation rights by the so Hon'ble Family COurt under which he had taken his son once to his residence at Bangalore for a vacation. When the child was with him, he realized his child was not meted out a humane treatement the family members of his wife. He suspected the child was not happy going back to mom's place fearing ill treatment by the child's maternal uncle. The child in fact spent a wonderful time with his dad and his paternal grand parents as it can be seen from many photographs and videos of the child when he was at Bangalore. As a reasonable father, Mr. Ramanathan wanted to know the cause for the refusal of the Child to return to his mom's place before he sends his child back by when Mr Ramanathan's wife had approached the police and with their help, they had forcibly entered into Mr. Ramanathan's residence and took the child away after threatening the father with imprisonment if he continues to act in such manner which police believed the father ought not to have did possibly based on stories produced by his exwife to the police.
Mr Ramanathan never fleeced away from India nor attempted to hide the Child, yet, as per the police a father had committed an act short of criminal in nature and warranted a warning of imprisonment if he loves and takes care of his child.
The mother, as soon as she returned, moved a fresh petition and got the 50% visitatation curtailed to mere a visit on sundays between 10 am to 6 pm that too only twice in a month. The father is hell disturbed and saddened. According to Mr. Ramanathan, if the law blindly says a father shall not be allowed to spend some time his own son then the justice system had totally failed. He asks how can a Court say a mother alone can have the custody of boy child even if she beats him or ill treats him in any other manner whereas the father has taken all his care to bring up the child in a suitable environment
Sadly when the matter relating to the custody rights was called in a Judge's Chamber, the child seemed to have told the Judge he was not interested in going back to his father putting my senior in emabarassment. So my senior adviced Mr. Ramanathan not to pursue the matter anymore and make use of the current visitation rights. However Mr. Ramanathan had a different view to offer; accorging to him, the child was tutored and threated to make such statmenents in the court, so it was not a true statement but was told out of fear of consequences which is unnceccsary harrasment by beating the child. Mr Ramanathan wanted my senrio to appreciate it but my senior was wary of appearing for the father before he is assured that his son would be interested in coming along with child
I went with Mr. Ramanathan to study the mind of the Child to verify if all the statments. As far as what I observed, the child had no issues mingling with his father and was in fact chatting and playing with his father. Mr Ramanathan asked me to take his child off to places like mall or bowling to intereract with him to know what he is in his mind. I did the same, I took him to Phonenix mall which is under construct to become the biggest multiplex in Chennai. We both had great time and he was such an adorable and lovable kid. At first we went inside a pet shop and from there we visited numer of shops iwthout buyting any\thing and even took couple of photographs inside some shops before we settled down to have a good lunch at NANDOS. the kid had one leg chicked and i never seen a kid eating so well like him. He devoured the food and finished it with full satisfaction. constrained by the budget his father gave me, i chose to have a simple veg rice after whcih we both went to a play bowloing and i taught how to play it and finally we retuned safe to the hotel where his fahter Mr.Ramanathan was staying.
while having lunch, I tried to see if the kid opens up about what his parents are undergoing and what impact it had on him. I was happy to hear he was happy to be wityh his father and at the same time, he sent out a repulsive expression when i menioned about his mohter. well i dont want to pas judgment but the bottom line is in matters relating to this the concept of best interest of the child is gravely misunderstood an largely misapplied
Initially Mr. Ramanatha was given 50% visitation rights by the so Hon'ble Family COurt under which he had taken his son once to his residence at Bangalore for a vacation. When the child was with him, he realized his child was not meted out a humane treatement the family members of his wife. He suspected the child was not happy going back to mom's place fearing ill treatment by the child's maternal uncle. The child in fact spent a wonderful time with his dad and his paternal grand parents as it can be seen from many photographs and videos of the child when he was at Bangalore. As a reasonable father, Mr. Ramanathan wanted to know the cause for the refusal of the Child to return to his mom's place before he sends his child back by when Mr Ramanathan's wife had approached the police and with their help, they had forcibly entered into Mr. Ramanathan's residence and took the child away after threatening the father with imprisonment if he continues to act in such manner which police believed the father ought not to have did possibly based on stories produced by his exwife to the police.
Mr Ramanathan never fleeced away from India nor attempted to hide the Child, yet, as per the police a father had committed an act short of criminal in nature and warranted a warning of imprisonment if he loves and takes care of his child.
The mother, as soon as she returned, moved a fresh petition and got the 50% visitatation curtailed to mere a visit on sundays between 10 am to 6 pm that too only twice in a month. The father is hell disturbed and saddened. According to Mr. Ramanathan, if the law blindly says a father shall not be allowed to spend some time his own son then the justice system had totally failed. He asks how can a Court say a mother alone can have the custody of boy child even if she beats him or ill treats him in any other manner whereas the father has taken all his care to bring up the child in a suitable environment
Sadly when the matter relating to the custody rights was called in a Judge's Chamber, the child seemed to have told the Judge he was not interested in going back to his father putting my senior in emabarassment. So my senior adviced Mr. Ramanathan not to pursue the matter anymore and make use of the current visitation rights. However Mr. Ramanathan had a different view to offer; accorging to him, the child was tutored and threated to make such statmenents in the court, so it was not a true statement but was told out of fear of consequences which is unnceccsary harrasment by beating the child. Mr Ramanathan wanted my senrio to appreciate it but my senior was wary of appearing for the father before he is assured that his son would be interested in coming along with child
I went with Mr. Ramanathan to study the mind of the Child to verify if all the statments. As far as what I observed, the child had no issues mingling with his father and was in fact chatting and playing with his father. Mr Ramanathan asked me to take his child off to places like mall or bowling to intereract with him to know what he is in his mind. I did the same, I took him to Phonenix mall which is under construct to become the biggest multiplex in Chennai. We both had great time and he was such an adorable and lovable kid. At first we went inside a pet shop and from there we visited numer of shops iwthout buyting any\thing and even took couple of photographs inside some shops before we settled down to have a good lunch at NANDOS. the kid had one leg chicked and i never seen a kid eating so well like him. He devoured the food and finished it with full satisfaction. constrained by the budget his father gave me, i chose to have a simple veg rice after whcih we both went to a play bowloing and i taught how to play it and finally we retuned safe to the hotel where his fahter Mr.Ramanathan was staying.
while having lunch, I tried to see if the kid opens up about what his parents are undergoing and what impact it had on him. I was happy to hear he was happy to be wityh his father and at the same time, he sent out a repulsive expression when i menioned about his mohter. well i dont want to pas judgment but the bottom line is in matters relating to this the concept of best interest of the child is gravely misunderstood an largely misapplied